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A partner who abuses you - is - in love, but the wrong way

A partner who abuses you - is - in love, but the wrong way A partner who abuses you - is - in love, but the wrong way
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Abuse and respect are diametric opposites: You do not respect someone whom you abuse, and you do not abuse someone whom you respect.

Here are comments my clients commonly make to me:

"The reason I abuse her is because I have such strong feelings for her. You hurt the ones you love the most."

No one can get me as upset as she can." "Yeah, I told her she'd better not ever try to leave me. You have no idea how much I love this girl!" "I was sick of watching her ruining her life. I care too much to sit back and do nothing about it."

An abusive man often tries to convince his partner that his mistreatment of her is proof of how deeply he cares, but the reality is that abuse is the opposite of love. The more a man abuses you, the more he is demonstrating that he cares only about himself. He may feel a powerful desire to receive your love and caretaking, but he only wants to give love when its convenient. So is he lying when he says he loves you? No, usually not. Most of my clients do feel a powerful sensation inside that they call love. For many of them it is the only kind of feeling toward a female partner that they have ever had, so they have no way of knowing that it isn't love. When an abusive man feels the powerful stirring inside that other people call love, he is probably largely feeling: The desire to have you devote your life to keeping him happy with no outside interference.

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