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A person who is incapable of loving another cannot properly love himself

A person who is incapable of loving another cannot properly love himself A person who is incapable of loving another cannot properly love himself
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I'm tired of living unable to love anyone. I don't have a single friend - not one. And, worst of all, I can't even love myself. Why is that? Why can't I love myself? It's because I can't love anyone else. A person learns how to love himself through the simple acts of loving and being loved by someone else. Do you understand what I am saying? A person who is incapable of loving another cannot properly love himself.

Self-love comes through self-esteem. It is more often said that to be able to love someone, you have to know how to love yourself. This concept doesn't convince me any more than your observation: to love yourself you have to be able to love others.

Above all, I think that to be able to love someone you have to know how to release your emotions. To love requires a form of commitment that intends to take the risks of rejection, abandonment, loss. Going beyond these fears and knowing how to surrender to others is the best formula for love. Above all, ask yourself, "Do I want to love?"

But what strikes me most in your reflection is the realization that without outside love there is no love for oneself. Allow me to ask you to go beyond that assumption and see things differently. If your will is to love yourself, work on your self-esteem, ask yourself when you succeed, and develop your love of Self. You will be the one who will be with you "till death do us part", define how you would like to be treated by the person you could cherish forever, and learn to treat yourself the same way.

We all have a source of love within us, draw from within and finally separate loving yourself from loving others. You can do both, independently of each other.

Greetings, this is my humble opinion.

By pattinsigrid | 27/06/2020

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