Character is the development of a style of relationships
When I came here as a child, I was... very cheerful. There were a lot of people, there were colors, it was a beautiful event. I think that must have played a role in my escape, because I was talking to everyone, I was looking at the windows, the doors, listening to the adults, and it certainly played a role in my understanding of the situation and in the solution that I was " fortunate enough " to find. People often say to me: "It's all because you had a good character! " We use the word temperament in attachment theories, but it has nothing to do with genetics or innate. Temperament reflects the fact that during early interactions, from the very first months of life, if one is surrounded by a mother, a family or a secure maternal surrogate, that adult passes on something of that security that belongs to him or her. My mother certainly passed on something of that security to me because when I arrived here in the synagogue on that day in January 1944, I was very cheerful.
It is probably this temperament, which is a very early preverbal acquisition, from the very first months of life, perhaps even the last months of pregnancy, that made me succeed, with a fair amount of luck all the same, in resolving this unlikely problem and escaping. Character is about developing a style of relationship. It is a kind of "taste", it is this "taste of the world" that one acquires very early in life. There are people who taste the world in a bitter way, others who taste it in a sweet way, there are happy tasters and sad tasters, welcoming tasters and hostile tasters. And this "taste of the world" explains our smiling or distrustful, intellectual or desperate reactions. This taste of the world is imprinted very early on.
It seems that there is a very specific area in the brain which could be called poetic memory and which records what has charmed us, what has moved us, what gives our life its beauty.
Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity... It is, in short, the subject of the history of the Grail. Only a predestined being has the ability to ask another: what is your torment? And he doesn't have it when he enters life. He has to go through years of dark night.
Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
Almost everyone in the world is self-absorbed within themselves. They regard themselves as the most important beings. People rarely speak bad about themselves. They are the heroes in their own story no matter how much entanglement of lies and bullshit is needed to achieve a gratifying and satisfying version of the tale.
By observing their actions, you could trace back their thought pattern, intentions, interest, and vision. Stop for a moment and analyze the action. Stop caring about what they say, what they think about how the world should be, how everyone can execute their best, or why the world is so messed up. They speak whatever hell it takes to sound amazing. Listen to their actions. Listen only and only to their actions.
We all have forests on our minds. Forests unexplored, unending. Each one of us gets lost in the forest, every night, alone.