Choosing a goal in your life fosters intellectual discipline
Since I began to live with myself, and to pay attention to the price of time, to the brevity of life, to the uselessness of the things one spends one's time with in the world, I have wondered at my former behavior: at taking extreme care of my teeth, of my hair and at neglecting my mind and my understanding. I have observed that the mind rusts more easily than iron, and that it is even more difficult to restore to its first polish. Such sensible reflections do not, however, give the soul back that flexibility it lost from lack of exercise when one is no longer in the first flush of youth.
The fakirs of the East Indies lose the use of the muscles in their arms, because those are always in the same position and are not used at all. Thus do we lose our own ideas when we neglect to cultivate them, It is a fire that dies if one does not continually give it the wood needed to maintain it. So, wishing if it is possible to make up for such a great mistake, and to make it bear the fruits that I can still look Forward to, I sought for some kind of occupation that could, in focusing my mind, give it that firmness (if I can put it that way) that can never be acquired unless one has chosen a goal for one's studies. One must conduct oneself as in everyday life; one must know what one wants to be. In the latter endeavors irresolution produces false steps, and in the life of the mind confused ideas.
Giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health. It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction. The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
When we get angry, we suffer.
If you really understand that, you also will be able to understand that when the other person is angry, it means that she is suffering.
When someone insults you or behaves violently towards you, you have to be intelligent enough to see that the person suffers from his own violence and anger.
But we tend to forget. We think that we are the only one that suffers, and the other person is our oppressor. This is enough to make anger arise, and to strengthen our desire to punish. We want to punish the other ...
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Psychologists have found a surprisingly small relationship between money and happiness. One answer is that people aren’t spending it right, but money itself might only be part of the problem.
Jennifer L. Aaker in her 2011 paper “If Money Doesn’t Make You Happy, Consider Time” argues, that time plays a critical role in understanding happiness, and it complements the money-spending happiness principles by offering five time-spending happiness principles:
1) spend time with the right people: it is not only whether you spend your time with others that influences your happiness, but also who you spend your time with Interaction partners associated with the greatest happiness levels include friends, family, and significant others, whereas bosses and coworkers tend to be associated with the least happiness
2) spend time on the right activities: to what degree is the content of that experience “evergreen” – perennially fresh and enduring?
3) enjoy the experience without spending the time: the part of the brain responsible for feeling pleasure, the mesolimbic dopamine system, can be activated when merely thinking : the brain sometimes enjoys anticipating a reward more than receiving the reward.
4) expand your time: focus on “the here and now” : Why? One possible benefit of being present-focused is that thinking about the present moment (vs. the future) slows down the perceived passage of time, allowing people to feel less rushed and hurried
5) be aware that happiness changes over time: for instance, younger people are more likely to associate happiness with excitement, whereas older individuals are more likely to experience happiness as feeling peaceful.
Souce : Jennifer Aaker, Melanie Rudd, Cassie Mogilner If Money Doesn't Make You Happy, Consider Time, Journal of Consumer Psychology, 2011