Having a thin skin is a blessing
I have thin skin. I think this is part and parcel of depression and anxiety - to be precise - being a person quite likely to get depression and anxiety … I don’t fight it. I accept things more. This is who I am. And besides, fighting it actually makes it worse.
The trick is to befriend depression and anxiety.
To be thankful for them, because you can deal with them a lot better. And the way I have befriended them is by thanking them for my thin skin.
Sure, without a thin skin I would have never known those terrible days of nothingness. Those days of either panic or intense, bone-scorching lethargy. The days of self-hate, or drowning under invisible waves. I sometimes felt, in my self-pity, too fragile for a world of speed and right angles and noise. (I love Jonathan Rottenberg’s evolutionary theory of depression, that is to do with the being unable to adapt to the pendent: 'An ancient mood system has collided with a highly novel operating environment created by a remarkable species.’).
But would I go along to a magical mind spa and ask for a skin-thickening treatment? Probably not. You need to feel life’s terror to feel its wonder.
It’s saying no.
That’s your first hint that something’s alive. It says no. That’s how you know a baby is starting to turn into a person. They run around saying no all day, throwing their aliveness at everything to see what it’ll stick to. You can’t say no if you don’t have desires and opinions and wants of your own. You wouldn’t even want to.
No is the heart of thinking.
With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side; each day I am more and more on my side.
Humans operate on the Principle of Least Effort: given several paths, we will pick the easiest. This one single primarily principle of any human actions, animal, or even an intelligent machine, whether it is in verbal communication or in searching for something, is the expenditure of the least amount of effort to accomplish a task.