No goal, no positive emotion
Why have a goal?
Well, it's easy.
No goal, no positive emotion. Because you experience positive emotion by noticing that you are moving towards a goal, and so if you don't have a goal, well you can't have any positive emotion. So, you better have a goal. You might say “what should the goal be?” We could start by saying any goal is better than none, and maybe it's a goal that would enable you to learn how to pursue other goals, while you pursue that goal, […] and so you can see that your goal is parameterized.
If you do not erect a hierarchical structure with something to aim at, you got no positive motivation; because you experience positive motivation in relationship to a goal, not from attaining the goal.
That is satisfaction.
Besides, it is fleeting. You know perfectly well. You graduate from university, poof, next day you have a problem. Which is “what you do next” and that is a that is a tough problem. It is not like you have solved your problems by winning that game, you just introduced the problem of having to introduce another game, so it is unreliable as a source of positive emotion but what is reliable is, you set a goal, and you try to attain it, and then that gives your life that, literally, provides your life with meaning
Focus is saying no to 1,000 good ideas.
…I think everybody should get rich and famous, and do everything they ever dreamed of, so they can see that it’s not the answer…
No one was as rich as they were, precisely because they owned nothing and did not want more.
[About Angela Duckworth - American academic, psychologist - experiment]
Duckworth finds it useful to divide the mechanics of achievement into two separate dimensions: motivation and volition. Each one, she says, is necessary to achieve long-term goals, but neither is sufficient alone. Most of us are familiar with the experience of possessing motivation but lacking volition: You can be extremely motivated to lose weight, for example, but unless you have the volition— the willpower, the self-control— to put down the cherry Danish and pick up the free weights, you’re not going to succeed.
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