Our lifestyle is determined by our feeling of inferiority
We have seen how human beings with physical deficiencies, because they face difficulties and feel insecure, suffer from a feeling of inferiority. But as human beings cannot endure this for long, the inferiority feeling stimulates them, as we have seen, to action, and this results in the formulation of a goal. Individual Psychology at first called the consistent movement towards this goal a plan of life, but because this name sometimes led to misunderstanding, it is now called the life style.
Yet, certainly, the wise learn many things from their enemies; for caution preserves all things. From a friend you could not learn this, but your foe immediately obliges you to learn it. For example, the states have learned from enemies, and not from friends, to build lofty walls, and to possess ships of war. And this lesson preserves children, house, and possessions.
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It’s saying no.
That’s your first hint that something’s alive. It says no. That’s how you know a baby is starting to turn into a person. They run around saying no all day, throwing their aliveness at everything to see what it’ll stick to. You can’t say no if you don’t have desires and opinions and wants of your own. You wouldn’t even want to.
No is the heart of thinking.