Our overwhelming feeling of insecurity drives us to seek progression
As the central motive in this field of forces the feeling of incompletion, of insecurity, of inferiority, is always to be found. The minus situation is at the basis of any psychological form of expression. Guided by the individual goal of completion, it gives the impetus to progression, just as it arises from the helplessness and imperfection of childhood, and as it has forced all mankind to seek from out of its needs a security-giving culture.
To be a human being means to have inferiority feelings. One recognizes one’s own powerlessness in the face of nature. One sees death as the irrefutable consequence of existence. But in the mentally healthy person this inferiority feeling acts as a motive for productivity, as a motive for attempting to overcome obstacles, to maintain oneself in life. Only the oversized inferiority feeling, which is to be regarded as the outcome of a failure in upbringing, burdens the character with oversensitivity, leads to egotistical self-considerations and self-reflections, lays the foundation for neurosis with all its known symptoms which let life become a torture.
Yet, certainly, the wise learn many things from their enemies; for caution preserves all things. From a friend you could not learn this, but your foe immediately obliges you to learn it. For example, the states have learned from enemies, and not from friends, to build lofty walls, and to possess ships of war. And this lesson preserves children, house, and possessions.
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It’s saying no.
That’s your first hint that something’s alive. It says no. That’s how you know a baby is starting to turn into a person. They run around saying no all day, throwing their aliveness at everything to see what it’ll stick to. You can’t say no if you don’t have desires and opinions and wants of your own. You wouldn’t even want to.
No is the heart of thinking.