The language of love is essential to any relationships
There was a very incredible book that I read, that talks about each language of love, and I really fit into several, but in a specific language I have is to declare words of affirmations about people, you know?
But what I mean is that one day, talking to someone very important to me, I could see how this language of love is essential in the relationship, be it with your mother, your boyfriend, in short, with someone you love, it is important to declare words affirmation is so genuine, it’s so motivating, you know? Okay, maybe your love language can be giving gifts, having quality time with the person you love, but that is still an AFFIRMATION, and thinking about this subject, after receiving several affirmations rs I decided to speak a little about it here, expose myself a little and talk about really relevant issues.
In particular, I love to affirm people. I like that, it's super healthy for both the receiver and the sender. Maybe your girlfriend, your friend or whatever, had a really bad day and is feeling like a failure or maybe look into her or yourself and see nothing so good, like, qualities, and what it costs you to go to her and declare words of blessing about her? Like, affirm it. '' You are very capable of doing what you feel like a failure or failure. You have no idea what you carry. You are very important to me and everyone around you. Anyway ...
Where do I want to go with all this? What a statement means to say true things. You also say the value that someone has for you.
For example, I love to give examples. Let's take an example regarding marriage.
It is super healthy for you to affirm your husband or wife, he or she needs to know what you believe to be true about that person and what you value about them, you know? This helps to make your spouse feel much more loved by you, much more secure in what you say you feel for him, in short: this increases the couple's safety and also increases the closeness between the two.
So, I believe that this language of love specifically, it brings a lot of encouragement to someone's life, a lot of strength, a lot of security, depending on what you say about that person. These are words, you know? They come loaded with strength, depending on the words you use and the intensity with which you say them. Words have absurd powers to transform chaos into beauty, to transform what is dead into someone, into life and peace, you know? To heal someone, to raise someone, to bless and not to curse.
"Wow, Wal, I still don't understand why you're saying this."
The point is: say good words about the people you love, who you consider, who you want to be around, who you admire.
If you admire someone, tell them.
If you feel something for someone you love real, say it.
If you see potential, something incredible in that person and he still can't see it, tell him, activate what is inside that person using words of affirmation. Because she thinks with me, maybe she heard a lot of lying things about herself, she took that to be true and created an internal block, thus hampering her view of herself. Bring life to people, you know?
'' You have something I wanted to have, but I will not be coveting, or comparing myself with you, because it is your measure, it is something that is yours. ''
So, use your words to give life and not to accuse and not to point the finger, but simply use the words of affirmation as a blessing in people's lives, sometimes it is all they need: encouragement through words.
Tengo lay down on his bed. fully clothed, and let his mind wander through various possibilities. The last time he saw Aortuune was when he was ten. Now they were both thirty. They had both gone through a lot of experiences in the interim. Good things, things that weren't so good (probably slightly more of the latter). Our looks. our personalities, the environment where we live have all gone through changes. he thought. We're no longer a young boy and a young girl. Is the Aomame over there really the Aomame he had been searching for? And was he the Tengo Kawana she had been looking for? Tengo pictured them on the slide tonight looking at each other, disappointed at what they saw. Maybe they wouldn't find anything to talk about. That was a real possibility. Actually. it would be kind of strange if it didn't turn out that way.
Maybe we shouldn't meet again.
Tengo stared up at the ceiling.
Wasn't it better if they kept this desire to see each other hidden within them, and never actually got together? That way. there would always be hope in their hearts. That hope would be a small. yet vital flame that warmed them to their core —a tinyflame to cup one's hands around and protect from the wind, aflame that the violent winds of realitymight easily extinguish.
I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.
My love keeps growing more passionate and egoistic, while his is waning and waning, and that's why we're drifting apart."
She went on musing.
"And there's no help for it. He is everything for me, and I want him more and more to give himself up to me entirely. And he wants more and more to get away from me. We walked to meet each other up to the time of our love, and then we have been irresistibly drifting in different directions. And there's no altering that."
We do not love people so much for the good they have done us, as for the good we do them.
Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.