We are often far more attracted to the easy path of safety and comfort than realizing our potential
While most of us will claim that actualizing our potential is something we desire to do, in reality however, we are often far more attracted to the easy path of safety and comfort, which Carl Jung calls, the road to death.
We tend to avoid challenges that will lead us to personal growth, we refuse to roll up our sleeves, brace ourselves and face our fears, and rather we remain passive in a manner that hinders and degrades our capacity to self-actualize, grow, flourish and live happier and fuller lives.
The hauling of these regressive forces positions us in a dangerous and almost untenable position. For example, if we give permission to ourselves to become defenceless against these forces, over time, we will receive a huge invoice in the mail and have to pay a steep price for it and consequentially anxiety, guilt, self-hate, will materialize and torment us innately.
Nevertheless, the great news is, we can reposition ourselves. The presence of these symptoms, described earlier, does not necessary mean that everything is lost, and we are doomed until death. Rather, as Maslow suggested, if we can train ourselves to view these symptoms not as a sign that we are ill and in need of medication or therapy, but rather view them as an ache and an itch from the growth forces within us, prodding us and trying to warn us that a change in our lives is needed. In adapting this approach, we will have taken the leap in the direction of becoming a self-actualizer and therefore we become one of those few people who succeed in being a fully flourishing and functioning human being, which means, succeeding and triumphing over adversity. Nevertheless, this does not say don't seek professional help. As stated earlier, problems are distinct and unique. Some might require more than the ideas shared in this book.
Maslow further writes, "He who belies his talent. the born painter who sells stockings instead, the intelligent man who lives a stupid life, the man who sees the truth and keeps his mouth shut, the coward who gives up his manliness, all these people percieve in a deep way that they have done wrong to themselves and despise themselves for it. Out of this self-punishment may come only neurosis, but they may equally come renewed courage, righteous indignation, and increased self-respect, because of thereafter doing the right thing; in a word, growth and improvement can come through pain and conflict."
This is the time to step out of your comfort zone and start doing what you have always wanted to do. Strive after what sets your soul on fire, live on the edge, do what makes you uncomfortable, reach for the stars, challenge yourself, stretch yourself, break your own limits, stand on top of the highest mountain and spread your wings. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough my friends. Just do it.
Genius is 1 % inspiration, 99% perspiration.
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Imagination is the most marvelous, miraculous, inconceivably powerful force the world has ever known.
Failure is an option here. If things are not failing, you are not innovating enough.
Chris Hadfield, reassuring a five-year-old who was worried about the Voyager satellite, a space probe launched by NASA in 1977, the most distant man-made object from Earth still operating after 42 years.
Voyager is so happy, because it’s the bravest satellite of all. It has gone the furthest. And it’s not lonely, because it’s talking to us. It phones home. And it tells us all about the wonderful things that it’s seeing. …There’s a whole universe to explore, and it’s just leaving our Solar System right now. It’s very brave and very lucky to be doing what it’s doing, so it’s not going to get lost. It’s traveled further than anything we’ve ever built has traveled before. It’s actually showing us the way. …
It might have been safer for it to just stay home, and stay inside a building, but then it would have been sad forever, because it never would have done its purpose. It never would have discovered things. It’s all a wonderful story of great discovery and success, and it couldn’t have happened if Voyager hadn’t been brave…
It’s not really the fact that everything always has a start and an end, it’s what happens in the middle that counts. What do you while you’re alive? What do you do while you’re laughing? And I think we’re doing exactly what makes Voyager joyful and as happy as it could be.
Think about the fact that you’re a little bit like Voyager. In that you’re going to go see the world, and you’re going to call your mom on the phone and tell her about the wonderful things that you see. … You wouldn’t want to spend your whole life hiding under your bed and never seeing anything in your whole life, you want to be able to do what makes you happy and joyful and learn about things to discover. You might be the person that discovers something really important for everybody else on the world, but you can never discover that if you just hide and only do things that are safe. So think about yourself a little bit like Voyager. What makes you laugh? It’s not just staying, hiding underneath your bed safely at home