You can make millions, be super famous, and still be depressed
This sounds antinomic, yet a reality of life for many successful people.
Maybe you know Alex Tew, the guy behind the infamous million-dollar page – a piece of internet history -. Around 2005, on a late night and lying on his bed, he came out with the idea of a lifetime: start a webpage with a million pixels that could be purchased for $1 apiece.
He did make the million bucks in just 4 months from a 50 dollars investment.
He then dropped out of college, moved to London. Between 2006 and 2010, he launched a series a venture without being able to replicate his success, with some consequences on his mental health. Feeling severely depressed for years, unable to sleep correctly and eat well.
Eventually though, he was able to find a sense of fulfillment again and launched in 2012 “Calm”, a mediation app, who went from $100K revenue in 2015, to $37 million in 2017
To be happy is to learn to choose. Not only the appropriate pleasures, but also his way, his job, his way of living and loving. Choose your hobbies, your friends, the values on which to base your life. Living well is learning not to respond to all the requests, to prioritize your preferences. The exercise of reason allows a coherence of our life according to the values and goals that we pursue. We choose to satisfy one pleasure or give up another because we give meaning to our life - in both senses of the word: we give it both direction ...
To be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action; it’s an activity, not something that is passively bestowed upon you, not something that you magically discover in a top-ten article on the Huffington Post or from any specific guru or teacher. It doesn’t magically appear when you finally make enough money to add on that extra room to the house. You don’t find it waiting for you in a place, an idea, a job—or even a book, for that matter.
Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress—the solutions problems ...
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
[Many people] think it means accept failure with dignity and move on. The better, more subtle interpretation is that failure is a manifestation of learning and exploration. If you aren’t experiencing failure, then you are making a far worse mistake: You are being driven by the desire to avoid it. And, for leaders especially, this strategy — trying to avoid failure by out-thinking it — dooms you to fail.